What does a good friend do for you?

Just a while ago I lost my motivation. Things were not so good with work, I was expecting different results even if I was doing the same thing all over again. I was not moving forward and my focus was only on the fact that I did not get those results. From my point of view, I had no learnings to take from the situation and the more I was focusing on the fact that I could not move forward, the more I felt bad and stuck. I was all over my head into the problem and I could not see anything outside!

One of the things that led me to lose my motivation was also the fact that my website was not up yet. And I decided to give up…Yep, you read this right! I was tired of working on all those small technical things that made me lose my patience and time. And I was tired of motivating myself be positive about something that I did not believe in anymore.

I was full of doubts and I was asking myself a lot of questions like: What’s the use of all this? Where will all this lead? Will I be able to finish it? Am I the right person to do it?

I shared all these thoughts with a good friend that is also a coach. He replied.

And what did he say?

He did not tell me “I understand”, “I know how you feel”, “I was also there”, “I am sorry to hear that”, “If it makes you feel better I am telling you that it happened to others too…”etc.

No, it was more than that!

I will share a part of his email, like this you will understand how he helped me:

Come on, what are you waiting for?

Let your questions aside and take action! Is not the website that is holding you back, but you believing that it is.

All is going to work just fine. Share your projects with people that are enthusiastic about them.

Focus on what you want and the desired results!

You say you need motivation…But do you know what motivates you? First you need to move and try it in order to understand what motivates you.

Stop asking yourself so many questions right now… “How much do I know”…”Why isn’t this working”…”Is it useful”…”What for”… You know already why are you doing all these things. Do not listen to your saboteur! Feed your mind with positive thoughts and your saboteur will shut up.

Stop searching for motivation as you are getting yourself in a vicious circle. Searching for motivation will demotivate you even more as you cannot find it easily. Just take action and you will move into another circle, that is the Success Circle! Just have the courage to step into that circle and you will see you will not complain anymore.

And stop complaining! What’s the use? To demotivate you even more and to be a victim?!

You don’t need anything else but yourself and your thoughts. You attract success using these thoughts.

And stop controlling things! If you see that you cannot control all those things do not give up! But let things come, let yourself driven by intuition and what is really inspiring you.

And yes, you are right: there is something bigger that is controlling you. Is it destiny? Is it the outside world? No!

The bigger thing that is controlling you is your own mind! Your own thoughts! Yep! Your thoughts are controlling you. But you can control your thoughts! So, take advantage!

You have the advantage!

Be positive! Positive! Positive!

Move yourself from:

I have doubts, I am unsure, I am confuse

to

I start thinking

I think positive

I read positive things

I watch inspirational movies

I remember myself why I do all this

I remember my objectives

I remember my life purpose

I feel that I achieve my objectives

I feel it in my body

I take action to reach my objective

I feel that action will lead me to result

I am happy

I am success

I take action NOW!

Let’s say his email was really strong and not easy to read. I was angry at him first cause he did not understand me. But later I got it: he did understand me, but he did not want to let me in that state of lack of motivation.

I am not sure if he was a coach in that moment or a friend that really wanted me well and had high standards for me. But I can tell you it worked.

So, what can someone do after reading an email like this?

Take action!